And so, I've had these random thoughts in my phone for a while now. Whenever they pop up, I type them up. You're welcome for sharing my weirdness...
- As someone who has been blamed for the types of men that hit on her, I can now say that none of that has anything to do with me. Who hits on me has very little to do with me and everything to do with them. I am only responsible for who I allow into my space.
- There is a tendency within people to give advice instead of listening, to think as you're talking to separate themselves from your situation so they can fix it.What would happen if we listened when people spoke to us, allowed ourselves to really feel the emotions caused by the person's "story", asked if they needed advice or just an ear and simply put ourselves into their shoes within the moment they are sharing with us? I think our relationships and lives would be completely different.
- Perceive the world around you. Feel your way through your situations. Treat relationships like they are as important as they are - you know, with the appropriate level of importance. This is what life is about. Relationship. It should be top of mind to build and correct them at all times. We should be walking through life leaving strengthened and healed people in our wakes. Think about how special it is to be allowed into another person's life and experiences.
- How to stay friends with a significant other after the relationship has ended: appreciate the intimacy that you have with that person and be thankful to have been able to get to know them on that level.
- Instead of trying to figure out why you're the way you are based on the notion that something is wrong with you, celebrate it. Thank God for it and walk in it. Remember the moments of clarity and use them to keep you grounded in your purpose, walk and relationship with God.
- Listen to things that people choose to tell you. Perceive it and really reach for the notion behind it. Oversharers tend to be dealing with issues that are continuously one their mind. They're usually seeking help in navigating those waters, not reprimands for sharing what you consider to be TMI. They share until they find relief from their circumstances, memories and thoughts. As they are telling you their "story", you should be honored that they chose to come to you in their quest for healing. God has placed them in your path for a reason, ask why and reach for understanding. Also, just because you feel that someone is speaking on something too intimate for your relationship with them, doesn't make it so. Be conscious of your judgments of others.
- People think that they change according to the situation that they're in, but they don't. The only change is their freedom to express the things inside openly and outwardly. But if you listen closely and pay attention to how you feel when you're around them, you'll know who they are regardless of their level of openness within any given situation.
